This week, April Fools day, I played some jokes on my family. We’ve been so busy of late that they completely fell for it! Forgetting what day, or even month, it is 🙂
But the day does make us think about gullibility, and others view of the reality of what is happening to our children.
I see two distinct responses when new citizens are told the truth about what LE are doing to these men, luring them in with pretending to be adults, then switching to pretending to be children – even at the last moment like in New Hampshire!
The two responses I see are either ‘OMG, I can’t believe they are doing that to our own citizens!’, OR ‘they SAID they were a child! There is never any valid reason to not just walk away, the men KNEW and WANTED a child all along! Lock them all up!’
It’s the second response I’d like to look at closer.
I’m trying to understand this particular perception and I see two questions here:
- Relations are so easy to find, why would you risk continuing to communicate with a minor?
- No one could possibly be that gullible – the men must be lying.
As a woman I know I have choices when it comes to relations. There are many jokes about that truth, i’m sure you can think of a few…
Realizing men are at a disadvantage when it comes to relations, add in the raging hormones of a 20 year old ‘man’. Further that with being an introvert, young, awkward…you get the idea
OR maybe the guy is a middle aged man, recently out of a marriage, trying to get back into dating, and feeling pretty unsure of himself.
These situations can create a scenario where a man might decide to go see if the person on the other end of the line is who they say they are or not. They were in an adult website, sent out a picture of an adult, or is using vernacular indicative of maturity, or even possibly they are into role playing. Many reasons on the internet to not believe when someone is purposely giving you mixed signals.
As for gullibility – have you never been duped? Never fallen for a scam? Or heard a friend describe such an event? I sure have!!
When I was a young professional in Chicago a woman came up to me with a gas can in her hand. She said she needed money to fill the can to get her back home to her kids. She was polite, friendly, with just the right amount of desperation on her face. I offered to drive her to the gas station – she had a reason ready on her tongue as to why she only needed the cash – could I please help her out?
When I drove around the block, after handing her a ten, to find her stopping yet another good Samaritan, I realized I had been had.
When in Colombia, with my two newly adopted sons, on a boating excursion to an island aquarium I had a similar encounter. I bought tickets I was repeatedly told were valid for entry on the island. The boys and I did not go in that day – again I had been taken by a scam.
We will never be able to convince those who refuse to believe the truth. I only hope one day, someone they know and love, isn’t entrapped as all our men have been.