On a rainy friday afternoon in Portland, my son Jace decided to look through the craigslist personals ‘casual encounters’ section.
At the time Jace was 20. He is decidedly an introvert, immature for his age, and his best friends are all online – in his gaming community. So when it comes to meeting women he is at a disadvantage.
He had a steady girlfriend for years, high school sweetheart, who moved off to college. They did the long distance thing for a while but, as so often happens with young love, it slipped away.
He’s since told me that he did have a few hook ups in those two years after that time, from people on craigslist ‘casual encounters’. He was cat fished once (old man answered the door), lied to once (woman sent a picture of someone else), and connected twice. Once with a woman about 25 and the other lady around 30. I asked him if he was ever scared he might get robbed, or beat up, but he said no – he would go meet them at their door. If they were who they said they were fine, if not he would just leave, as with the one woman who had lied.
So on this particular friday at 3:26pm, Jace answered a woman’s ad on the adults only no strings attached website looking for sex. The ad read…
Jus gamer gurl sittin home on sunny day – w4m (Vancouver)
Been tired of all the rain. sun is good, but this gurl is gammin today. u wanna chat hmu. we can chat as long as im not lvling!
The truth is there are now a LOT of self proclaimed ‘gamers’, most of them are adult, introverted, and nerdy – just like my son. Just like his father.
My son started up a conversation with the writer of the post by asking what game she was playing. Her response was ‘alien isolation’. Now I had no idea what that was but, looking into it, this is a video game version of the movie Aliens. My son watched aliens when he was 14. I had to stop the movie half way through. Alien isolation is a rated M for mature, 17+ game. One review proclaims
” ‘Alien: Isolation’ is the most terrifying game I’ve ever played”
In the beginning of the conversation Jace identifies himself as a ’20 year old white guy’. The reply, at 3:53pm, says ‘ I’m 13 and this alien is fukn tearin me up’. In disbelief Jace replies “Why did you post an ad on craigslist if you are 13? You mean 23?” She does not answer Jace but says she ‘likes college guys’.
To be sure he is NOT talking to a 13 year old Jace requests a picture and sends one of himself sitting at his desk with his headset on. In response he receives the following picture: