Thank you all for your congratulations and warm wishes to Jace for his recent return. He is doing well, all things considered.
He met with his Parole Officer, Sloan, for the first time.
One of Jace numerous restrictions is a blanket ‘no internet’. Jace, being my son and cut from my cloth said, OK – I can use a computer OFF the internet then. Nope, he was told, nothing ‘digital’ was the way it was then presented.
Um…microwave, refrigerator, television….we gave up asking and just went with the impression that most everything is not allowed.
The quandary here is the dichotomy of the requirements.
Lets start with a basic one: get a job. OK – Jace can do that. He can go to the corner store and grab a local paper for the want ads. Oh, wait – most jobs are no longer in the paper. Most jobs are now listed online. Internet. Not allowed.
I write Sloan on my email for where Jace is supposed to look up jobs. He can’t email her himself of course. The reply is the name of three locations where Parolees can go to look up jobs online – such as the Goodwill Job Connections office. Great! Ummmm – can we get the address? He cannot look it up. And directions? He cannot look them up either. Guess what generation was not raised to know how to read a map? Not that it’s really hard – but it does require forethought, persistence, often phone calls. It’s illegal to be on the phone while driving in Oregon….
The other funny thing about directions these days is others also no longer learn how to GIVE effective directions… It used to be that I would call and make an appointment, get the address from the receptionist, and basic directions – detailed if I did not know the area. Try calling now and asking for directions? Whole different response!
He’s still working on finding a job – really not easy to do without the internet – but hoop jumping is what this part of the process is all about, so that’s what we are doing.