I started writing this blog 5 years ago now. 5 years is a good amount of time. A lot can happen in 5 years. And a lot can NOT happen in 5 years.

What has happened:

  • Jace was convicted in a bench trial where he repeatedly said he did not believe the person he was communicating with was a minor. He was correct. Yet convicted.
  • Jace served 6 months in Clark County jail where he was in a cell 23 hours a day, did not see the light of day, and watched a man commit suicide. He was 22 at the time.
  • Jace spent the next 13 months in WA state prisons.
  • Jace was released Jan 2nd 2020, on lifetime probation and lifetime registration.
  • Jace won his appeal in September of 2020
  • Jace new trial date has been continued 10 times now, currently set for September 2023.

I’ve spent the last 6 years supporting my son, advocating against proactive stings, and helping those entrapped.

Has it helped? Jace? Me? Anyone?

I do know that my emotional and financial support for my son has made a world of difference to him. He will tell you that my visits, which were frequent, and my communication with him, while he was in prison/jail were what got him through. My efforts there have effectively kept my son from becoming an entirely different person through this ordeal. He’s not the same, of course. They took my 20 year old son and I will never get that person back. But I am fortunate to have a form of him returned to me. Not everyone is as lucky in that regard.

The toll I’ve paid has been huge. Emotionally, I now understand suicide. Financially, I’ve spent more defending my son than most have saved for retirement. Physically, my body and mind have struggled to withstand the strain, stress, and pain I endure. It shows.

Others? I’m glad to say that I HAVE been able to help others through their own version of this hell. We have spoken, out loud, what others could not. We have exposed the secrets, shared our stories, offered insight of defense to others. I am proud to have had that ability within myself.

But I am often asked, this six years later….”When is enough enough?”

Having spoken my truth through national TV and newspaper, worked with legislators and policy boards, reported whistleblower complaints, and blogged to you all, I feel I have done what I set out to do. Anyone entrapped in proactive stings can now find information online. They are NOT alone. We are here to help and will continue to do so.

But I also feel the need to move on. To look ahead, and start to live again. There are things I want in my life that go above the soul sucking reality of this country. Do I think the U.S. will ever stop these and realize the truth here? Yes, I do. Do I think it will happen in my lifetime? No.

To that end I have decided to more proactively look at retirement and immigration. There is no way, in this country, to be safe from the zealous infringement of human rights. Hell we can’t even get our legal rights of free speech, due process, and privacy honored. To me, this is no longer the land of the free. It is the land of swindlers, cheats, and slavery. Was it always so and I am just now ‘woke’? That could well be. But what I am not is paralyzed and feeble. Will I find better out ‘there’ someplace? I don’t know, truly. But I do know it’s not good enough here.

Love and support to you all!

15 thoughts on “It is what it is.

  1. I completely understand the way you feel. For a while now i’ve felt like we are all just spinning our wheels. It’s obvious legislature isn’t going to do anything for us because they all want to get re-elected and not look like they are taking up for so’s. If i’ve said it once i’ve said a thousand times since i’ve been involved in all of this… We have GOT to get this to the public!!! A website is fine and dandy but until the populous knows what’s going on…nothing is gonna change. Go and live! You’ve done your part and then some. One day we will all be free of the pain LE has bestowed upon all of us but I fear it’s gonna be a long time.


  2. I am amazed at the work you have done. You have been an inspiration for others
    who have suffered because of twisted law enforcement practices that put arrests above truth. I am trying to get a response in California – but victims of these police strategies are so reluctant to to be exposed. The press has condemned them before they have their day in court.


    1. I was guilty before my first day in court by everyone as well. Sooo many people said the words “I love you” before and they have erased me from their existence now. Sometimes I feel like a fart in the wind anymore.


  3. I cried all day after reading this…although I completely understand your feelings and position, I just feel such a loss. A still feel so beaten from my son’s case. I too would love to leave this country. I hope Jace is successful in his upcoming trial or they decide not to re-prosecute the case. I would love to see y’all both able to live a free and happy life. Thanks for everything Kathleen! Love and Luck to you both!


  4. I feel your frustration and pain. I have also been looking at leaving the U.S. by immigrating to a country that offers forgiveness for me since my crime was 33 years ago. Thank you for your blogs and I hope you find happiness and peace that you and Jace deserve.


  5. I was sad to read this, but also glad to hear that your energy and spirit will be applied to finding alternatives for you and Jace. Best to you both, and thank you for all the amazing work you’ve done.


  6. Thank you for being our voice out there. Only us involved in such a terrible situation and God knows what we go through and how powerless we feel on this unfair and endless fight. Please keep us updated and God bless you and your son Jace!


  7. Thank you for being our voice out there. Only us involved in such a terrible situation and God knows what we go through and how powerless we feel on this unfair and endless fight. Please keep us updated and God bless you and your son Jace!


    1. Hi Jiro, thank you for your comment. I’m not sure your idea of common sense is the same as mine. Common sense to me is that nothing on the internet is real or truthful. Have you found otherwise? Fox news just admitted they lied about the election, and they’re a news agency! I don’t think common sense sides with being an adult, on an adult site, pretending to be a child looking for sex with strangers. Nothing common or sensical in that IMO.


      1. I gotta agree with Kathleen because by the time they told me I just thought it was a weird turn on they were trying (role play). I showed up and two 40 year old women were looking at me so I felt even more at ease…until cops walked in in riot gear…


    2. Since when are minors going on Adult Dating/Hookup sites and pretending to be adults then switching back to minors? They don’t, they would continue to pretend to be over 16 or 18 (whatever consent is). Most who have not used these sites will NOT understand. If you haven’t done online dating or similar then you are automatically disqualified from discussion of the topic. Bottom line is these stings are just a scam (easy to see why people are confused and continue conversations – doubt). It is easy prosecution, easy money, easy arrests. You can argue morals (fine), we can also argue ethics. And how they perform these stings are ethical violations; entrapping people. We are all suckers for something. What is your weakness? We’ve all been scammed. We all commit felonies. Most don’t get caught. We want law enforcement to straighten up and conduct any stings properly and prosecute those who are of danger or get them help and not manufacture criminals.


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