Its that time of year, New years Eve, where we reminisce about years gone by, especially the one whose demise is upon us….oh to be free of 2020!!
This year in review – my son Jace was released from prison, for a ‘thought crime’ he did not think – on January 2nd. We were accompanied by both my boyfriend Jim, and the award winning journalist for the New York Times Mike Winerip. I am thankful for their support, throughout Jace incarceration, at the time of his release, and today. They are, and have been, rocks to grab hold of as my river of shock and despair threaten to drag me under.
I’d like to remember all who have helped me through the last year, and last almost four years, where my life has collided with corruption, injustice, and the uphill climb named ‘advocacy’. It’s been a challenge, but so many have stood by me through it all. My sisters Reen and Sally, my old friends Diana, Laurie, Rich. My newer friends – Michelle, Rick, Annie. You are all appreciated.
One hears a lot of stories of betrayal when this particular question arises in a relationship. When trying to warn the throng of righteous conformists, on Dr. Phil’s facebook page this month, who felt fit to explain what scum my son is, and how delusional and toxic I am in defending him, I met a woman who’s nephew had encountered the same circumstance. She proudly told me how she had cut all ties with the vile family member. I cried for her sister who so needed her support, and her nephew who was most likely, unjustly ostracized, by first society and then his own family. I cried for her lack of love and support for those who most relied on her. And I thanked whatever higher power granted me the support of friends and family, when many doors closed on me, and my eldest.
But I most want to thank those friends who have found me BECAUSE of this trauma, not in spite of it. There are those kindred spirits who recognize in each other the truth – Aracely, Dan, Bruce, Joanne, Becky and Tyler, Heidi – you all have become so very dear to me during this past year. Together we have made a difference! Both WA and UT have cut ties with O.U.R. . Our appeals both in and out of court are shining a light, and slowly opening understanding and empathy. Together we are strong. Together we will see this through.
And then there is still yet another level of friendship. One that seemed to appear out of thin air, to help hold us up and shield our fragile state, in a way so very unexpected. I can only consider these souls to be our angels.
To find a FRIEND who not only supports you, but to the point of cutting off their own family who refuses to listen to right and wrong?!?! Can any of us expect such a gift? Such support, loyalty, love? No – it is already asking a lot of the family you know to stick by you, but friends putting you above family because they KNOW THE TRUTH about you? That is a level above – a person who lives by their belief in others without corruption of public opinion. Someone not involved but knows the WORTH of you, and thus proves that their worth is made of gold.
Todays wish for you all is that your new year is filled with such love and understanding as you have yet to experience. The joy of new friendships. The satisfaction of legal reform achieved. The wholeness that each of you know your worth, as I see you – amazing, wonderful people.
Simon – this one’s for you. May we all grow into such compassionate friends to others as you have been to my son. Happy New Year!